3 Ways To Intensify You Orgasms and Intimacy During Lovemaking

Here's some food for thought - One of the best ways to intensify your orgasms and increase the pleasure of your overall lovemaking experience is by prolonging foreplay.

It's true. And we're not just going to stop with "prolonged foreplay," you're about to learn three additional ways to add new levels of excitement and passion to your lovemaking that will bring you and your partner even closer together. So - in our quest to learn how to have great sex - here we go!

1. Make your foreplay last longer

An extended time of foreplay gives you time to build up sexual anticipation and amplifies your sexual experience. Now, why does this work? Well, partly because it's just human nature. Go back and think about a big event in your life. Maybe it's a party, a holiday, or a major movie launch, chances are - you were so excited by the buildup and buzz that it made the actual experience many times better.

Well, the same rules apply to your love-making. The next time you spend time between the sheets, make a conscious effort to explore your partner’s body. Look lovingly into their eyes, gently run your fingers across their skin and leave a sensual trail of kisses all over their body.

The more time you and your lover spend devoted to foreplay, the greater your sexual experience will be. And if you want to feel even more magic then...

2. Try new things and then add a "twist"

Now don’t get me wrong here, I'm not talking about JUST trying a new lovemaking technique, tip, position or even location. While each of these things would definitely spice things up, you can take your experience up another notch, simply by using a little added creativity.

For example: Why not apply a tip or learn a new technique––then pack a simple picnic and head to a beautiful park for the day. Who knows - you may find a private spot, who knows what might end up happening? :D Going on fun dates like these helps to bring back the magic that made you fall in love in the first place. Want one more hot tip?

3. Become a game player

I'm not talking about head games - I'm talking about tasteful, fun and alluring sex games. They are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. Not only are they extremely fun with a lot of 'replay value,' but they actually accomplish BOTH the previous tips at the same time too!

Because when you play a sex game you…

1. Automatically extend foreplay in a fun and interesting way

2. Try new things that the game tells you to do

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you'll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

So if you want to create a magical experience, remember there’s no better way than playful game that combines both prolonged foreplay and trying new things.

Recommended Resource:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of "100 Sex Games For Couples," a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 100 Great Sex Games - Learn How To Have Great Sex

Rekindle the Magic - How To Have Great Sex...

10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

1. Send them a unique gift at work - Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Become kids again - If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

3. Fun with water - On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A massage with a twist - Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. Bring back childhood memories - Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. Stare at the clouds - Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. Go for a walk on the beach - Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night - Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. Show you’re grateful for your partner - Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying:
"Thank you for coming into my life."

10. Spice up your lovemaking - Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.

Recommended Resource:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

How To Have Great Sex - Even If You're Married With Children

A Top Ten Tip List for parents who want to know how to have great sex in spite of the kids.

But first, a little background. Look, I'm happily married with children. I think I was warned a few times, but I didn't take anyone seriously. When they said having children would change my sex life - they weren't kidding. I just thought I knew better than anyone else. Boy was I wrong!

I don't know if you, the reader, are married or single - whether or not you have children. But the following information can apply to couples who are simply busy.

You may be facing a few problems. My wife and I come up against opposition to our love life almost everyday.

Sometimes, sex is just the last thing on the to-do list and being last - we don't get to it. Other days, we're too tired and/or it just doesn't seem to be worth the effort. (Okay, that one might apply more to her than to me...)

There have been times when one or more of our kids finds the perfect time to interrupt us, just as we've decided the timing is right. As an aside, I've often wondered if the kids come with a built in mommy/daddy/sex radar - they sense that the mood is right and that's when they decide to "need a drink/need help going potty/have a bad dream, etc." Just wondering...

In any case, if you want to have great sex - you have to be able to find some time and some energy; and you'll need to work on your physical skills as well as your emotional connection.

Guys - it's easy for us to think of sex as a physical act, with little regard to the emotional component. For the lady in our life to respond to our advances, it's important to make sure we're focusing on the emotional connection first. We'll touch on this more in the ten tips that follow...

Ladies - us guys can be pretty thick-headed sometimes. For us , sex is usually more about the physical act and has less to do with the state of our emotions. Even if we've had a bad day - we can forget all about it and be ready for love in minutes, if not seconds...

So without further ado - here is my list of ten tips that will help you learn how to have great sex:

1) Work as a team - whether you're parents or life's just busy; you have responsibilities and roles within your relationship. It may not be possible to split things up 50:50 - but it is important to be clear about expectations. Disappointment, frustration, bitterness and resentment all stem from unmet expectations - so define and divide the responsibilities and roles - and keep the communication lines open. Feeling like you're on the same team can go a long way toward your emotional connection (guys - remember to do anything you can to improve the emotional connection.)

2) Prioritize - Repeat after me... Sex is important and worth the effort... Sex is important and worth the effort... Maybe that's corny - but sex is a way to cement and reinforce your bond - it's energizing and relaxing at the same time. It brings about a sense of well-being and makes you feel good about life in general and more specifically, yourself. You may find yourself thinking it takes too much effort (ladies) however - if you remember that sex strengthens your relationship and a strong relationship make sex easier...which strengthens your relationship...which makes having great sex easier...you get the idea.

3) You don't always have to be "in the mood." (This one gets directed more toward the ladies.) Back in the day, you may have been able to look at your lover and feel aroused. But after a year or two, that usually goes away. It's okay to blame it on the socks that never make it into the hamper, or the mess in his area of the garage - but that stuff didn't always matter. You felt passion without letting those quirks get in the way - you may have even thought the quirks were cute at first. One thing to realize - if you start the physical act, the feelings will follow shortly. To be very blunt - my wife and I still work on this one - she'll go ahead even though she really doesn't "feel" like it - and within minutes the feelings follow and she is wondering why she would hold out on herself (and me.) This can work for guys too - sometimes love boils down to a decision. So decide to engage in something that's healthy for your relationship and know that the feelings will follow.

4) About spontaneity - where exactly is it written that great sex has to be spontaneous? I do like spontaneity, and it was certainly more spontaneous when we were first dating, but that was 10 years and 4 kids ago. Now it takes planning - but isn't it worth planning to have great sex? It may take a date, a mini-moon, creating the right atmosphere, music, candles, babysitters - there are lots of ways to be intentional about spending some time together. And if you're really against planning for it - you can plan for the possibility of a relaxed moment turning into an opportunity for passion. I have been know to have "rancid breath" - so I keep Altoid mints on my side of the headboard. The last thing I want is for the stars and planets to line up and not be able to get a kiss...

5) Know your limits - maybe you've recently had a baby. Even if you're ready for sex, it's going to need to be gentle and tender - guys, you'll have to work at this so she can enjoy without too much exertion. After a few months, you may be ready for more - but again, know your limits and be prepared for coitus interruptus the kids come with radar. As the kids get older and more independent, you'll be able to devote more time and more energy to have great sex.

6) Cuddle Time - For those with children - you can explain to your children that mommy and daddy like to cuddle - just as they like cuddles. They may interrupt you less, without too many uncomfortable questions. Call me a crappy parent, but I have said something like this before - "Daddy and Mommy are having cuddle time, while you're watching your movie - go back and finish the movie and we'll all go for ice-cream afterward. (Bribery does work.)

7) "Do you think I'm sexy?" - Confession time - I've probably gained about 25 pounds since I got married - chalk it up to my wife's great cooking, my own lack of discipline when it comes to exercise. But the net result is, I've got a few curves and handles I didn't used to have. 4 kids later, so does she. We both get bombarded with images of "what's sexy" everyday on TV. What are we supposed to do? Well, we can still call each other as sensual, curvy, softer, full of warmth and depth. Our kids are sensual - they learn a lot about the world through their sense of taste and touch, especially in the early years. We can take a cue from them and approach each other with the same sense of wonder, exploring our own sensuality through our senses of touch and taste. Go ahead - give it a try.

8) Remember not to reduce things to the logistics only. Even if you're planning and putting more energy into setting up opportunities for passion - take time to nurture your relationship. Make foreplay a way of life - and guys, I don't mean foreplay the way you're thinking. Just be kind, be helpful around the house, communicate, leave love notes - or today - text message notes. Be random, be creative - on my wife's last birthday, I sent her about 30 text messages throughout the day - Happy B-Day, I love you, You're beautiful, etc. Guess who got the best birthday present at the end of the day - I think I did. Why? Glad you asked - because the whole day was foreplay to her and she knew I was thinking about her, connecting with her even though I was at work.

9) Call it selfless selfishness - To be able to take care of each other and your kids, you have to take care of yourself. If you're grumpy, tired, and full of resentment - you won't be a good partner and you won't be a good parent. If you know how to have great sex, you'll be more relaxed, more energized and you'll be getting along better with your "teammate." It may seem like having to do more, but I'm trying to help you lighten your load by increasing your level of happiness and satisfaction.

10) Love and enjoy life - have you ever watched kids at play? They approach life differently than we do as adults. They have so much energy and savor every experience - we can learn a lot from them. It is much easier for them to love unconditionally, forgive quickly and pick up the pieces after learning from their mistakes. They bounce back - somehow on the road to adulthood, many of us lose those abilities. If you have kids, try to watch and learn - they love life and enjoy everything. If you can keep the love between you and your partner strong - the kids will see it and that will create a positive feedback loop enhancing the bonds of love within your household.

Bottom line - you can enjoy the benefits of great sex - you can share those same benefits with your partner. If that's not enough, remember that your kids will benefit by seeing their parents happy and in love.

In summary - whether you're married, busy or otherwise: You can have sex, you can have good sex - but wouldn't you rather know how to have great sex? I know my answer to that question, and by following these tips and some of the content further down this blog - I hope you find yourself connecting with your partner on a deeper and more meaningful level.

By the way - my wife and I found these Lovemaking Tips on How to have Great Sex - to be a great place to start spicing things up. Let me know what you think...

Enjoy! - John